You Are Love

You are love. But you don’t realize it. There is a divinity asleep in you. You have been programed so deeply by the sociocultural that you have almost completely lost your sense of who you are. Who you are at the core is connected to everything else. Here is your analytical metaphor: You are your own blog on the worldwide web. You are there, part of the whole big thing, but you have your very own distinct, individual characteristics, your own little show. The “All” is “Hollywood” and you are an episode. But the show needs the episodes to be the whole medium of entertainment. You see. So you don’t have to be competitive, or covetous, or jealous or envious because there is enough of everything in life to go around to everyone for every need. If you live on the ocean, full of fish, all that’s needed to eat each day is to fish. The Universe is very simple. And challenging! It never stops moving, nor should you. Things change, so you yourself have to continue to change your “dance steps with the music”. Sometimes you need to “learn” and use new moves, to stay evolved and progressive. This is what “getting old” is about, the inability of staying new, fresh, and flexible. Adaptability is the name of the game to happiness. Look at small children, they go long. We could never socially manipulate to the degree that we do if own our inherent nature wasn’t so pliable, so willing. Children’s nature is trusting and unfortunately as adults many of our conceptualizations of how life is have been corrupted. We believe a lie. And it takes great effort and much time to train our consciousness out of that lie. How do I know it is a lie? Because it doesn’t work for long, it doesn’t promote feeling great all the time, happiness, joy, etc. Suffering is not the enemy. It is an alarm, a security system to make you aware of something going in the wrong direction. You must use your consciousness to determine what that is FOR YOU and WHY? People spend a lot of time focusing on everyone outside themselves, then on their own issues, beliefs, and truths.

The Animator or Something Greater

Happiness is in the mind. I have travelled and observed people living with nothing that are blissed out and people with every luxury at their fingertips who are anxiety ridden and miserable. Why is this so?

It is in their mind. Their mind has cut them off from their Inherit Source. Inherent because it is IN, inside of you. You can’t lose it. It is always there. Although you may bury it in denial or cover it with your falsehoods. It is not your personality. Your personality is your own creation. You made it up. It is not Inherent. Your Inherent is inherited. It came with you, it is always there, you have no control of it. It however controls everything. It is the ISness of all that there is. It is the Animator. It is the Something Greater. It’s greatness is so far beyond our tiny brains. If you could chose to think about this in this way- that there is a Great Inherent Source that was, is and always will be capable of creating you and everything else that you know and don’t know of, an animating energy that is the source behind all appearances and all reality and Infinity. That Source must be perfect to do all it does. You and I are attributes of that Perfect Source whether you want to think it or not.

The human retina of the eye does 10,000 things in one second. The eyes don’t really see, they collect light and images and the brain interprets. The brain sees. The heart pumps, the lungs breathe. All this goes on and a zillion other things simultaneously even as we sleep. How so? What is in control of all of this? What determines when we are born, when we die? Who we meet? Who we love? Our families, our friends? All the paths we cross at the perfect times and the perfect places? Every day the sun rises and sets, the world spins on its axis. Who or what controls this? When the flowers bloom, the grass grows, the birds sing, when the spring, summer ,fall, winter arrive and depart, all the beauty, all the cycles, the stars, the moon, the oceans, all the feelings we feel. Huh? Do you control it!? No! But Something does! And that same Something is Inside of you. It is You. You are It. Like the acorn is the oak. And your mind separates this fact- that You are It, that You are that Amazing Power- from you. You ARE one of Its Attributes! But, YOUR MIND BY ITS OWN THINKING MAKES YOU BELIEVE THAT YOU ARE NOT!!! YOUR OWN THINKING MAKES YOU THINK THAT YOU ARE SEPARATE FROM WHAT YOU REALLY ARE!!!!!                                                                               

Mankind in 2012

Mankind in 2012 all over the world awakens from a long sleep. The dinosaurs of the old guard that will not shift and anyone else that has been wired to awaken but remains deep asleep by choice will have to disappear, as they refuse to participate in the totality of Love, the totality of Light and the totality of the Divine. Their light will extinguish and they will go elsewhere. The remainder will awaken to create a brand new civilization fully embodying its Divine Source. It is full of love, full of light. It is peaceful, inclusive, and in perfect cooperation. The days of competition will be finished, the days of illness will be over, as love will replace business and money. The shift will include the mass consciousness’s total healing to love and beauty in relation to all, one another. This in turn will create a consciousness, through proper right motivation, that will create the correct use of global resources for the good of all. The promotion of human well being will be the primary concern and work of all. Basic needs of all humans will be filled: clean food, water, air and energy, education and health care, shelter, clothing, protection of the environment, evolution to a high global consciousness. Excellent macrocosm through conscientious microcosm. World peace. Heaven on Earth. Whole individuals contributing to the whole mass.

Q: Why Would I Need A Yenta, A Matchmaker?

    Q. Why would I need a Yenta, a matchmaker?

  A. To help you. If you wanted to play the piano you could teach yourself or enlist an instructor. You would most likely learn more quickly with help.

  Q. What do I actually do? ( a Yenta for you)

  A. The reason you are not in the relationship you want is never about “other” people. It’s because of you. This doesn’t mean you are bad, wrong, or undeserving. It simply means that deep down inside of you, you are unclear about what you wish for. You don’t actually know. The universe is dying to give you what you want. It can’t because you block or stop the process with your lack of clarity. I’d like to add sometimes it’s compounded by a lack of commitment on your part as well. Not lack of commitment to the other person. It’s a lack of commitment to what you want. You need total clarity and commitment. In other words, you can be clear about what you want sometimes and then you second guess yourself why you want it and then decide it’s not “right”.  You go back and forth, yes and no, about what you want. In this way, you are not clear. This is what most people do. And why the things they want never show up. Think of it this way: successful people (those that fulfill their goals and desires) get their success because they are focused and are willing to do the things that are required. They will do whatever it takes. They don’t decide one thing, then cancel it, decide something else, cancel it and go back and forth, back and forth. You never make progress if your thoughts and feelings cancel each other out all the time, never going in the same steady direction. To get the relationship you desire, everything you need to do will require internal effort on your part. If you are willing to submit to an internal transformation, you can have anything you want in this life. Athletes do this. It’s hard if you are resistant and your desires are not strong and sincere. That’s why people are miserable. They choose the mediocre. It’s easier to just stick with the status quo and be the “victim” rather than break a habit and become dynamic.

  Q. What is the process of transformation?

  A. First of all, let me say that if you are willing you will succeed. If you are going to travel, to take a trip, you will need 2 things: the desire to go and the destination. It’s the same in relationships. You need to choose the place where you want to get to and use your human effort to get there. It’s easier to get where you’re going with a map or route and a little preparation. The trip will be smoother and faster. The inner transformation on your part is taking time and focus to look at yourself and your desires. It’s easier for most people to have a coach i.e. yenta to realistically see these things. We all need support. What I do simply is help you to identify and clear obstacles that may be holding you back. I aid you in demystifying the confusion in your desires. My services don’t appeal to everyone. They are simple and clear so they work for the sincere. Some people love their drama and don’t really want to give it up. It’s a huge distraction from looking at who they really are and what they are doing with that. The culture we live in doesn’t help. It actually creates much more anxiety and competition than the unity and love that we all seek.

So basically, the process is that we communicate,You and I. I ask questions to stir up ideas to help you get clear about what you want and who you are. Then we look at if your behavior is in alignment with your desires. Awareness begins. People create results and success faster and greater the more aware they become. It’s impossible to change what you are unconscious of.                    

Why me? What do I know? I have been surrounded by the masses my whole life. I grow up in a big family, long marriage, children, a career of service to the public in the beauty industry for 30 years in the most intimate way. I have been very close to people enhancing their personal appearance, physically in private their comfort zone, touching them and creating the image they project to the world through their appearance. And I tell you, that’s a big deal! They have shared information with me that no one else knows, like a therapist. That is part of the process. We all need to be listened to. When you communicate, your thoughts and ideas come alive. Clarity is born and a framework you create acts as a tool to empower you. Then it is easy. I’m just the support and the catalytic agent to start your process. You do it. I just help you “see” the way.                       

What Do I Want To Feel?

What do I want to feel?

In the way of love, what is it that we want to feel like? Usually in life the underlying motive of the things we want, is more related to the feeling that we want to enjoy and experience than the actual thing itself. Often it’s not the actual thing that we want but the experiential feeling we believe will come with the thing. With this thought in mind, what does the kind of love we seek feel like? What do we truly want to feel? This is where the confusion lies. We start thinking, and not about what it is we want to feel like. That’s the first big mistake. We start rationalizing, conceptualizing, intellectualizing ideas, etc. etc., not paying any attention to how we want to feel. At this point it’s better to slow down, get into a state of surrender, stop all the distractive modes and although it’s not easy at first, to “check in” on our feelings. It can create anxiousness. But look at that anxiousness and go beyond it. This is internal participation. You must be engaged. Part of the dilemma in life these days is this sense of spectatorship. We watch a movie, a funny romantic comedy like No Strings Attached. Good movie-deep statement about our culture. But we watch this movie and this is the extent, for many, to which we experience love, as an idea, which really isn’t an experience, it’s an entertainment, a spectatorship. We watch it without participation.                                         

So we get quiet and ready to hear the heart tell us what we are longing to feel. Listening to what it wants to let us “know”. We must quiet the brain for a moment so we can hear the heart speak. Get quiet and still. Then listen. Repeat” WHAT IS IT, I WANT TO FEEL WITH ANOTHER?” Not what do I want to get? No. “HOW DO I WANT TO FEEL?” “WHAT IS IT THAT FEELS GOOD FOR ME?”  We’re all different. So the answer varies. That is a great thing. Everything varies in Nature. It keeps things interesting. And how we want to feel, what brings satisfaction and fulfillment changes all the time. This is the nature of the unmanifest (Heaven/the Divine) and the manifest (what we create on Earth). Everything starts in the unmanifest, then it gets created or manifested through thoughts and feelings.  Something new can always be manifested again. So this is a beautiful thing because we have the power to create and then it can be changed, a new something is created to celebrate. This is the difference between celebration and entertainment. In celebration we participate. In entertainment we are spectators. So the cycles of life all follow this pattern of creation, sustainment, destruction, over and over, again and again. This is life. We can only exercise control over our reactions to the ebbs and flows of life and circumstances through our own awareness of how we are feeling and what we want to feel. We can change our feelings. We can consciously chose our feelings, we can direct our feelings better. We can consciously select what we want to feel and by actively putting our awareness and focus on it, we are participating (celebrating) in creating the kind of life we really want by knowing what it feels like. We need to start thinking about how we want our lives to feel like on a daily basis. With that said what feels better than love!!!?

Love and relationships

Love and relationship part 1 and 2

Part 1: Love yourself. You must come to know your true nature. The one you came to earth with at the start. Little by little the world has corrupted your beauty by making you conform to society and not be an individual. Society wants you obedient to its control. I’m not saying you need to be some kind of radical rebel. I’m saying know your own uniqueness and don’t imitate the fake. Be true. Be real. Everything else comes and goes. Problems occur in life because we go against what is natural within us. It causes a split and that’s why we suffer. Stay true to your heart, your nature and allow and accept others the same and love is easy.

Part 2: Don’t inflict your standards on others. This goes back to allowing and accepting. They are them and you are you and there are differences. I don’t know where our culture got its ideas that everyone should conform to one boring thing. Each person is individual and different and should live as they see fit for themselves. You dictate only for yourself and let them dictate only for themselves.

Thinking Serves Feelings

Thinking serves feelings.

Once thinking serves feelings, everything is balanced. The mind and the senses dance and create a world of their own. We limit ourselves through the mediocrity of living just the sense pleasures. We must create a way to use the mind to create a new reality, a new civilization that does some good. The mind doesn’t direct us. We direct our minds. With ego gratification and sense gratification living gets phonier and phonier. Look at Wall St. and American politics.

Real wealth is in the heart and spirit. It’s in own inherent creativity. We don’t have to prove anything to anybody, including ourselves. Believe in ourselves. Don’t believe in someone else, that’s secondary. Create our own consciousness. Don’t borrow or imitate the mass consciousness. Imagination is better than intellect. All the advances in the human progression were due to creativity. Meditation is creativity. We need not become anything, just yield to that power within us. Surrender to that that is beyond us. Then our egos disappear, our wounds heal, we become whole and start flowing with existence.

Make a commitment to not be phony. Commit to the process of a higher consciousness. The mind has the ability to manifest anything it wants. Do not choose to live a powerless life. We have to take responsibility.

A New Generation in A Brave New World

A New Generation in A Brave New World

What’s going on in our world? I’ll tell you. 14,000 years ago humanity followed a matriarchal society. The Divine Feminine ruled for 7,000 years. At that point a patriarchal energy came in to rule for the next 7,000 years. That patriarchal energy just finished its reign in 1999. So now what? What’s going on?

We have begun a new paradigm. Not matriarch, not patriarch, but both together as a couple, as equals, as co-creators. Humanity’s ruling energies will be of a feminine/masculine co equal interdependent balanced ruler. That is where this new generation of humans (born 1975 and later) are taking us.

They are a unique breed. They are perfect in their own way. And everything in the last 75 years on earth is the review, cleanup and ascension of the old to make way for the new- the new breed of human consciousness. A much more evolved human consciousness. One that is moving closer to its own Divinity without getting lost in the process and destroying itself.

A new breed that will use its unique and individual wisdoms to create a collective whole that is balanced and interdependent and that will transcend pain and suffering out of the human equation. They will create Heaven on Earth and elevate this beautiful planet to be part of a more balanced universe.

This new breed, which will be here for a least the next thousand years, needs to be more fully and clearly understood by those of the old breed and those who have come to “clear” the way for them.

Each one of them has a “genius” of some kind within them. And the whole point is to discover what that genius is and bring it about to create something new in the world. They have a different mentality (Thank God!). They learn differently and they can’t be herded like sheep. Education is going to have to change tremendously in regard to them. They are naturally intuitive, so memorizing a bunch of antiquated ideology doesn’t work for them. Their needs must be met and with great love and compassion for the fact that they are so very different from what’s come before them. Each one has a genius that they need to find. And when they do, when they find their genius, it is half of the equation for their happiness and total fulfillment in this life here on Earth. All that genius, from each of them, will create a new consciousness and way of existence for humankind here in our planet, Mother Earth. The other half of the fulfillment equation is that each of them is encoded to just one mate. That’s right just one mate- their one true love. So when they find their one mate and their genius they are golden. That’s not to say that they won’t have many experiences with others who are not their one mate while on the road to finding their true love. But once they find their “divine contract to mate” they will “know” because it will fit undeniably. The energy flow will be there. It will move along easily. It will feel beautiful and be supportive. They will be compatible. And when they meet, match and mate they become the living embodiment, here on earth, of the new energetic archetype, the feminine/masculine co equal interdependent God. “As Above, So Below.” 

The Quick Way TO Freedom

The Quick Way To Freedom

First separate the real from the false. The false will get you nowhere. Even if you don’t know what is real, you do know what is false. So don’t sign on to that bill of goods. The list of things that SHOULD bring bliss: money, beauty, power, status, education, position, opportunity…The best things, the real things are unquestionably simple. They are a simple yes or no, because you know for sure there is never a maybe and you don’t ever have to convince yourself or make excuses. If you find yourself making excuses for someone or something then you know its fake, it’s false, at least for you. So get real about yourself and what you really want. We think we want all this stuff, but really we want attention. Usually attention will do it. Then a little kind spiritedness goes a long way.

Find Yourself Than Find Your Truths

Find yourself than find your truths.

Everyone has a failed love somewhere early in life. They just weren’t understood and loved unconditionally when the seeds were sown.  Parents of children are so invested in their own dramas and survival during those formative years that it’s near impossible to do. Many have been branded somewhere in time by a love situation that didn’t go right and its victim can suffer unconsciously for years. For men it can start with their mother (maybe a dynamic between the mother and father) and for women, their father. We long for the validation and recognition of our own wonder. We are a wonder, one of a kind. One of the most significant influences of love for me was my father’s mother. This grandmother had such love, acceptance, allowance, and understanding of who I was that I will never forget how she made me feel. She always said yes, not in an ego creating way. She would let me be and do what brought me happiness. So long as I didn’t get hurt she let me be. She had an amazing ability of creating delight and a sense of belonging in a child. I felt I was her favorite and so did each and every one of her 35 grandchildren. That power of unconditional love.

To get clear of the early love malfunction you need to identify it and address it. Embrace it and forgive the ignorance, neglect, whatever was the source of its creation. Realize that whatever it was that you needed and didn’t get emotionally, will continue to be a pattern in every new relationship. You will search for that validation in relationship after relationship. You will continue to play it out unconsciously until you make it conscious.  Once you are aware of your unconscious pattern you can learn to give yourself whatever you didn’t get but wanted, and let go of trying to find it in others. It’s like a wound that needs to be cleaned and looked at so it can heal properly. Whatever makes us suffer just needs more light and more love. So find the weed and pull it out at the root and toss it in the rubbish. Whatever you needed back then is possible to give yourself right now. It always comes around to love. Love is food. You go hungry without it. You get cranky without it. It gets more painful without it the longer you go. Babies die without it. It makes us old before our time if it stops.

Why are people unhappy?

Why are people unhappy?

Its because their energy has taken a wrong turn. And with passage of time the wrong turn becomes an unconscious habit.

We all start happy and loving. It’s our Divine nature when we are born. Then a cycle starts where our surrounding providers (the people we love), project their ideas for molding and constructing identities that we should become. It’s pretty inescapable because it begins when we are little and helpless. We are cared for by people who, if they were on a time line, are probably at the deepest point of their own enslavement in a societally conditioned false personality. Unless are really blessed to be raised by people who allow you to follow your own nature, you are doomed to become split inside by the pressures of the human environment around you. Like begets like, usually. It takes great effort and courage to break a cycle and move and behave opposite of what you have been forced to experience. That is, if you are not completely broken first, in the process.

Life is an evolution. That is what I believe. I also believe that the human spirit reincarnates many times to refine it’s consciousness. I believe souls evolve. I believe, that right now, the group that is maturing has been groomed to be competitive, but are choosing to be collaborative and cooperative instead. The days of the war monger mentality are over, at least in the U.S.A. I believe that the United States is the model of democracy- a spiritual democracy that is for the globe. It’s far from perfect but we are moving in a positive direction to become a global whole. The paradigm being unified individuals operating from an awareness of themselves as an individual but also awareness of themselves as a part of the collective whole, the group, the human family.

We are evolving to oneness, an individual first that creates in the collective whole. This young group will smash the old ways of control. They will innovate new models of consciousness. They are realizing it’s not enough to be well fed, well clothed, well housed, well educated, with all the bells and whistles, if you are not well loved within yourself, from yourself and radiating benevolently that overflowing excess of love to those others like you.

Love is the most important component to sustenance in the human schematic. Atrocities occur on each other and our planet because of lack of it. And we’ve lost it simply because of a wrong turn that can easily be set right. Set it right and practice that new setup and create a new habit, by creating a new awareness, a new consciousness. This is what we are striving towards: embodying our true Divine nature within the one human family on our planet Mother Earth.

We are born to illicit love. Period. That’s the whole concept in a nutshell at present. All the great masters, messiahs, holy teachers, whatever you want to call them have all said the same thing: Love Yourself and Love One Another. Mankind has a long history of this Divine Manifest being contorted and twisted by manipulative and greedy men to gain control and power over the meek and gentle hearted who try to practice love. This has got to stop and the present youthful generation will do so reconnecting to the Divine through consciously guiding their thoughts and emotions into acts of love. They will transform themselves through the conscious and constant practice of thinking correctly and converting their emotional energy to illicit love and loving relationships. They will think right thoughts, positive thoughts, not garbage, not ego based. They will imote love in their feelings and in their words. They will direct whatever emotional energy that fills them back into what comes most naturally, that which is love. It is natural. The most natural thing is to radiate love. The reason mankind is so screwed up is because it has lost its essential connection to its true nature through the practice of and enslavement to the ego based concepts of the mass consciousness. All that needs to be done is to lift the veil of unconsciousness, to see the stupidity of our own ancient rules and outdated standards that no longer serve us or our Mother Earth.

We have to practice love. Everyday. Every minute. As light dispels darkness, love dispels unhappiness.

Getting Busy

Ok. Ready to begin. Cleared your head. Opened your heart. Know what you want. Your willingnes is good to go. In Divine Contract, two people meet and mate. There is an energy process, a flow that stimulates emotion, human emotion, between these two people. As you connect, as the energy flows, emotions come along and those emotions manifest the quality, the quantity of the relationship between the two of you. Many times there are other emotions this energy can get translated into, something besides love. All the energy influences from your spirit, through your soul, are those of Divine
emotion: love, awe, divinity, joy, wisdom, acceptance. The discrepancy between those emotions and what you actually feel is a translation between your soul and your physical body. Sometimes the energy goes astray. Sometimes the energy is too much, and it is translated as irritation, as annoyance. There is also a functioning of choice, although these choices are below the level of your consciousness. In the process, you learn all the aspects of human emotion.You feel an experience. All aspects of human emotion within this experience, which seems to be fully reactive, but which is not, you have choice. Although it seems your emotions are in response to energy, that energy is always designed to elicit a response of love. The emotion that comes instead of love is a function of your choice although it may not be conscious. If you can begin to make this process more conscious, if you can begin to look at each relationship in your life and make full conscious choices about them, about acceptance, about friendship, about allowing, about choosing to not be annoyed or irritated or frightened or threatened or competitive or any other emotion and instead focus on love, this will shift your consciousness, your experience in life. It will shift your abundance. It will open your creativity. And it will take you to the next level. To love someone is not to make a commitment to them. Rather it is making a commitment to yourself and fulfilling your commitment with the Divine.   

Rules of Engagement (How to find your SoulMate)

Before you begin, I suggest two essentials:
1.) Be clear in your focus ie know what you seek. Laughter, fun, passion, romance. fidelity, etc.
2.) Understand it's an unfoldment of learning. Relationships would be boring if we didn't learn from the other in the process, as a matter of fact this is why many relationships fail. The partners get bored, stop growing and encouraging each others growth. Remember that real growth feels uncomfortable sometimes too.

Be what you seek.  This is the "wavelength" factor. Energy is everywhere. Particles moving.  Physicists have discovered that our reality, which we create with our energy particles, has variables. We actually "will" them into probability. These variables are, what I like to call, your intent.
So let me make this simple. You want to find your equal. First you must know yourself fully. Take an inventory. What's good? What's dark? Second, what do you want? What do you have that you want to share? This is how you become clear. By visiting all your own details.
Now that you are more aware of who you are and what you want, you need to embrace this next concept.
"Wavelength". If you are serious about finding your soulmate lovematch, study your wavelength. What do I mean? What wavelength are you on? My experience, which has encompassed many, closely, shows that people are not selective enough about what they gravitate to. I am not asking you to be an elitist about the people you are surrounded by. Not at all. What I am asking you to do is become more aware of two things: your powers of observation of yourself and others and your feelings.
Paying attention to these two things will create a shift in what shows up in love. Expressions like: like attracts like and birds of a feather flock together are expressions of wavelength. The beauty of this concept is, it saves you time and effort in not wasting your energy trying to change someone that's not on your wavelength. It won't happen. You can't change anyone but yourself. You can change your attitude to kindness towards everyone but you can't change someone else's way of being. Through love people can become transformed, but that is not within your power to do so, as your intention set. You can intend to transform yourself.You can intend to assist in the transformation of others if they ask for your help. But no one will ever change just because you want them to. So you must learn to love what is. Starting with yourself. Once you are aware of who you are and what you are like, then you become more aware of what's around you that is on the same wavelength because that's what you are paying attention to now. Success is created by being aware and paying attention to what is. By thinking in this manner your "tribe" (wavelength equals) will show up.
So now you have this tool to use which I like to call observation. You now start looking around to see what shows up on your same wavelength.And here comes the real fire-How do you know it's on your wavelength? It can be identified on your wavelength because of the way it makes you feel. The answer is very simple. We over complicate it because we've been taught to use our brain instead of our heart. The brain is great for things like bank statements but not for love, which is best guided throughour heart and our feelings.
So here is the new skill set. Use observation on yourself first.Watch and learn who you genuinely are even if there are ugly things. Things you don't love. We all have them. Our dark sides. All they need is more light and love. Embrace them, make peace with them in an awareness that you are changeable if you wish. This observation of yourself contributes to wholeness, which significantly bumps up your wavelength. A truly healthy happy relationship is best when two whole individuals come together to share and have fun while assisting each other to spiritually grow (among other things).
So get yourself whole because being a vampire is no fun. You know vampires. They are the people who drain you of your energies because they themselves are not whole, not full. They are empty and need filling. Avoid them. You can feel them immediately now with your new observation and feeling skills. Let's get back to feelings. Observations are watching yourself then others, as if overseeing. It's like you are hosting a party. Like, well look at this... this could use this... Don't judge, just watch. First you need to learn and practice awareness. Then you can hone your changes, on yourself, only on yourself. But let me let you in on a big secret. When you change inside yourself, the reality outside yourself externally shifts and changes too. Remember this: Everything ultimately is an inside job.
Now pay attention to your feelings. This is so very important, that I can't stress this enough. Pay attention to what you are feeling! First observe, than ask yourself: How does this make me feel? It might take a few seconds to get a good reading (understanding) of just what you are feeling. This is key, because most people go wrong, give up, shut down, whatever, on the relationship path because there is so much confusion about feelings. In love, feelings are great! They are your steering wheel, that drives you in the correct direction for your journey. Don't be afraid of them. Pain is an awareness alarm. Joy is an awarenss alarm. They are pointers. They show you, they direct you, they guide you. Use them as tools. That's what they are. If the feeling is affirmative go with it. If it's negative change your course. Very simple stuff. And when you practice it you will feel stronger, clearer, more confident and you won't harm anyone in the process. If you follow this, which is easy, you will see changes...good ones!

Small Child Mind

Just look at small children. They are in the zone of connect. Connection with the universe. With their own little essences. Then little by little our culture, our world, families, schools, churches, our media splitters us apart from our Divine essential connection to the All. It happens through comparison to a bogus standard: the good student, the good wife, be a good boy. Where did it all begin? It is time to exist as a community of one earth, peacefully, lovingly, whole. How?
By first looking within at ourselves, making peace with ourselves, loving ourselves first. You can't give what you don't have. Spend time alone. Discover who you are, what you are. We all share the same things. We breathe, we feel, we want the best for our children and those we love. With all the stimulus overload in the world we exist in today, we don't spend enough time looking within us. It's good to be alone. Balance is the key. Yes, we are social creatures. Joy comes in giving to others. But first become abundantly aware of what is inside oneself, in order to share that, with others. And then allow and accept others to share their internal experience as well.
Experience is the best teacher, is what's been said. How many of us have had the benefit of our own experiences? Experience is an inside job. No one can have it for you. It's like eating a cheeseburger. You can eat one or someone can tell you what it's like to eat one. Big difference! Have your experiences. Then
share them. We have more in common as humans than not. The preoccupation with paying more attention to what everyone else is doing in the world outside of us has become an obsession. The problem with obsession is that balance is lost. Now it is lost so far we don't even know what balance is anymore. Dysfunction is a fashion accessory these days. Our culture encourages dysfunction. Look at the state of mass media...reality T.V., the news.
There is hope. Mother Nature never fails because God is perfect love. There is a cosmic shift, right now, on the planet, that is bringing consciousnes to the forfront. In just 50 years, the black culture in the U.S. have been liberated to equal rights, women have been given opportunity to be human sinstead of possesssions with access to education and jobs and gays are free and out of the closet. People's spirits are being allowed and accepted. There is a thirst, a spiritual thirst for awareness. Look at the success of Oprah, who's credo was "Honor Your Spirit" and popularity of "The Power of Now". Different cultures marry, different religions marry, and a different kind of marriage is needed: A Divine Marriage. One the nutures and promotes instead of enslaving and holding in bondage. Divorce is high because people have forgotten love. They say "How can I be taken care of? What can I get?' instead of "How can I help? What can I give?"
Love will grow through unconditional allowance and acceptance.
Marriage will evolve to a state of divinity. It must evolve and ascend to something greater, more beautiful. Love is the most important thing in the entire world. More than money, success, fame or power, which our culture tries desperately to stuff down our throats, at the expense of our spirits. Love is our essential energy.

Practicing Happiness

To change the world, one must seriously focus on one's own energies. The judgements and dramas we utilize against others should be pulled out at the root. That negative energy we use towards others and ourselves in a negative direction should be harnessed into our own inner purification. We can't change another. Only by our own work on changing ourselves for the better, do we have any effect on improving the energy of others. If our own energy is beautiful, then it is possible to have an uplifting effect on others. Think about the people you know, that make you feel good, just to be in their presence. They are happy just to enjoy being with you.
Then compare this to the vampires and bean counters you know of. They suck all your energy because they are so hungry for attention and "measure" everything they give and get because they are so afraid and limited. When someone thinks about being taken advantage of, more than likely they themselves take advantage of others. If one is trusting, probably they are trustworthy. What comes out of  one's mouth, says more about themselves than what the content is actually saying. Be observant. Alert. Make a study of observing yourself and what could be changed for the better and do it. And watch others as a means of understanding. Behind all aggression and negativity is a wish for attention, an unfulfilled longing. The world loves to accumulate more and more misery. It's like a club-let's all commiserate our miseries- BLABLABLA. The reverse should be true.
You become what you pay attention to. This is the truth. With this said, don't you want a life of ease and joy?
Collect your moments of happiness. Hold the memory of happy times past, if you have no happiness to hold at present. Because what you hold in your mind and your heart creates your next reality. If you want a better experience, a better reality, change what you think about and the way you think about it. Add good thoughts, more and more of them. Find what's lovable everywhere around you. Enjoy everything you can and share your happiness. It's a practice. If you practice this adding and building of happy things in your existence, with time your reality changes for the better. Little miracles show up regularly. Being miserable is a habit and it breeds like a contagious disease. Wakeup! Practice happiness. You have the power!


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Self Expression or the lack there of

The problem of self expression is enormous. This is largely due to our upbringing. We put an emphasis on money, family, power. We don't realize our divinity. We live lies. We sacrifice our own personal truths, our hearts. Our souls become bound in an imaginary cage. Our egos produce such a fake identity and we become more and more confused and afraid. We become so afraid that we can actually paralyze ourselves into a place where we can't even exercise our own self will. The heart shuts down because of the pain in not being allowed to express who we really are. Addictions begin, as we try to anesthetize ourselves away from the truth. Why we don't love ourselves is all about social conditioning and now is the time to wake up and change ourselves and our world. The human condition is all the same. Rich or poor.The poor are distracted by the need to survive. So they happier at a level, if the sustaining needs are met. It brings a bliss from the relief of physical hunger. The rich suffer from a psychological, emotional hunger. Now all the physical needs are met, so that distraction goes away, but it is replaced by an emotional void because money and power have an ability to build up an ego to a false greatness. Consider the "entitlement" of the rich. There is a kind of compartmentalization that takes place, because they are so driven about themselves. I realize what I'm saying is paradoxical, saying know yourself, pay attention to yourself and then saying that being consumed with yourself isn't a good thing. The point is to know one's true self, the one at heart, not the ego created false one.That one is a mirage of images and personality traits from the outside world. It changes daily like fashion, the ego driven, world defined persona of who we are. You can't connect to someone else if you yourself aren't connected to yourself.

Like attracts like:1st rule to meet your Soul Mate

So the first rule to meet your soul mate is to be a soul mate to yourself. Love yourself. When you know who you are and are happy being that, you will be able to attract someone of the same vibrational frequency. Then you have someone you can really share with and vice versa. Each being mutually "full", not needy, you can then help your beloved grow into being a more fully conscious and fulfilled human and they can help you do the same. It's an independent cooperation. It feels really good. Love is for our growth. Like attracts like.
Once we have learned to love ourselves, give to ourselves, then we learn what is in our hearts, our feelings, desires and needs. In this way, we have an awareness of ourselves and that is powerful tool in the happiness factor. Happiness is an inside job. In the Divine loving relationship, two people have a common goal and commitment that says "I am here to move heaven and earth for your spiritual progress and for you to become better". That is love!
Love is not "What can I get?" "How can I be taken care of?" This is not love. I don't know what it is but it is not love. Universal Law says giving is receiving, you sow you reap, karma, on and on. Do we understand the concept? We really don't at all, because we believe that if we give, then we have to get something in return. We get motivated by the return and that's not real giving because there is an expectation. A condition. Here is where the conceptualization of giving goes wrong. It's not genuine. When you give wholeheartedly, it's for the act giving. It makes you feel good. There is no agenda, no condition, no expectation. It's genuine. What is
genuine? Genuine is when something is real, natural, true, with nothing false behind it. In this case, something done without a self involving motive in the outcome. We are always thinking of ourselves in an external capacity. If we take this energy, even just a small percentage, that we use in our external drama and put it into internal observation and meditation, all of our dynamic in life would change. Why? Because we are creating balance in an off balanced world inside of us. We are not the world. You are you. Stop trying to be
what is not. Be what is. Look at it . Make peace with it.  Find it's beauty. The Divine only creates beauty. And you are Divine. It created you. We make things ugly with our minds. Get into yourself to get more out of yourself. Get so full of love with yourself that you can afford to be generous to others in the world that you want to give your love to. Be so full that you are overflowing! You can't give what you don't possess yourself. In this state of being full of love, when you give to others that you love, the act of giving because you want to help them, actually is a gift that you receive because it resonates in your heart, it's true, genuine, real. You do it because it feels right within. It makes you feel good. Now you give with an open heart. And that is
how you create joy- by that gift of giving, comes an ecstacy of receiving- you feel good in that act of abundance in having more than enough to share. Nothing can be enjoyed as much as it can through sharing it.
So, here's the point: BE GREAT! Work on yourself. Get full. Than you will attract the same, you will attract what you really want. BE WHAT YOU SEEK!   

Divine Contracts

So we understand that we are human beings that have souls and that we choose to incarnate here on earth to learn and grow in consciousness and vibrationally rise to higher levels because life is a continuous evolution. Everything on the planet is comprised of energy. Every single thing. Energy can't be created or destroyed, it can only be changed, transformed. We are energy morphing every second. The infant becomes a toddler, the toddler a child, the child a teen, and so on. So we are always moving, changing, growing.
That being said, any time you are unhappy with your current situation, the possibility to change it is readily available because everything is vastly changeable. Everything is in motion. Sometimes this aspect is forgotten.
We think things are unchangeable. This is false. Everything is changeable. Nothing in nature is permanent.
So we come into an ever changing environment to learn and have joy. If we are not having joy, it's only because we choose to be in disalignment with the cosmos. And that's ok, duality or opposites creates the contrast of experiences that are needed to fully envelop the sensation of it all. What is cold if you don't know hot? So we embody greater sensivity in this process and a fuller body of enrching experiences.
So we come to earth with an agenda to master our potentiality, to become the fullest self we can be. Each one of us is unique and different, with our own gifts, so our potentiality will reflect this difference as well. We will need others, as actors to play their roles, in the productions of our lives, in creating our stories and to aid us, in getting our lessons.  These agreements to participate in each others lives are called Divine Contracts. We agree to marriage, babies, love, many things. The contracts can always change. Within each of these Divine Contracts is a great opportunity for fulfillment. It is good to fill them.
So let me reiterate this: We come to the world with "contracts" to fulfill with others for the sake of our personal growth, to realize our full potential and to help the planet evolve. The most powerful tool we can use to achieve all of this is LOVE!
Now I will direct our attention, to conracts for love, marriage and soul mate. Yes, we have made contracts for these things. This explains why some relationships fall into place with ease and last a lifetime and others are disasterous and very painful. Remember the expression "a match made in Heaven"? Well it is the truth. There are Divine Contracts behind great relationships, blessed marriages, and
ancient matchmakers have been utulizing them for eons. The contracts make the couples energies (because they are similar spiritually) more compatible and symbiotic at heart. Their energies flow easily and this is the formula for relationship bliss. All energy flow (emotion) between people is supposed to elicit love, to create love. It doesn't always go that way. This comes back to consciousness. You can not utilize properly that which you are not conscious of. Intention can bring the unconscious to consciousness. If you understand the nature of something you can be in better alignment with it and make it work more benefitially for you.
Hence this is my task in Divine Matchmaking, to recognize the Divine Contracts for marriage, the Divine Marriage.

Earth School

Earth is like a school. Your attention is a channel for growth. Before we are born, we enter into destiny agreements with other souls we know. It's like agreeing to meet a friend for lunch in Paris when you know you will both be there at the same place and at the same time. The game plan can change, there is always choice. But life makes alot more sense this way. Knowing you came into it with certain "contracts" to fill with other souls, for mutual growth, theirs and yours.
The purpose of life is to realize our potential and to help the planet evolve. With this idea in mind, you can create a much more interesting and fulfilling life. Think back on some of your deepest associations with the people in your life. What was the outcome? Or what is the outcome thus far? It's an interesting reflection to find what the lesson in it is for you. It helps you become better acquainted with yourself and what you are and aren't. Some lessons really make us suffer. But you will find that with this new awareness-your brand new consciousness of yourself, so to speak and some diligent practice, you can learn to grow more deeply, quickly and painlessly. Not all lessons require suffering. Usually the suffering is tied in with our own unconsciousness of what's happening. We have acquired a habit of projecting all our cares and woes onto  "the other".
It is time to put this silliness to rest once and for all. You are responsible for everything in your life. Now there may be some really horrific things that one would say I never would have created this. But the one and only thing we can control is us. It's hard! But the only control you have in life is your reaction to the things you have scripted. We all have forgotten that we scripted this story before we came in so we could have lessons to reach our fullest potential and help others to do so as well. If something isn't workin' for you, CHANGE YOUR MIND!
It's truly amazing how invested people are in their own drama. The three reasons why people continue to suffer when they know better and could change are because they are too lazy to make the effort, they love their own drama and wouldn't want to part with it for the world and/or they are too afraid of the unknown.
You never know exactly what a change entails and the uncertainty is very scarey to some, ie: the devil you know is better than the devil you don't know. The reality is whenever you are going into the unknown anything is possible. Anything! That is fabulous! It's infinite! Once you know something it becomes limited, it's encapsulated. The unknown is sublimely full of billions of possibilities. It's an excellent opportunity to be creative and select the things you do want in your life. But you have to have awareness and exercise choice. You have to pay attention, focus and make an effort. 

Love feels like...

What is love? Or phrased a better way, how does love make us feel? The only way to know love is at the emotional level. Love is not intellectual. Although everyone has tried to make it so one or more times in their
life. It's not physical, that's called lust and it's very short lived if that. Love has a growth potential. It starts at the feeling level because it is based in the spiritual realm. It touches the soul and the soul and the emotional body go together. There are different levels of consciousness and as you go deeper into consciousness, the greater becomes your connection with the soul. The soul is life force. We aren't our bodies, we aren't our thoughts, we have our feelings, but we are our spirits. The bodies change, the thoughts differ, the emotions swing, but the soul can remain constant for a lifetime.
The only way to know oneself is to spend time alone quietly going within. From the time we are very young we are coersed to the extreme to be social. It's part of existense in civilization. However, culturally, we have
overdosed on it to the point that we don't know who we are internally anymore because we've paid more attention to everything external instead of what is is inside of us. How do you know anything is true if you haven't had your own experience of it? Let's face it, we learn what we observe. You can tell a child to behave this way or that but they will parrot your behavior.Why? Because it's what they see, feel and experience that becomes what they learn. Be careful about this if you have kids. It's not what you say to them to do- it's what they see you are doing yourself that makes a behavior pattern.
Every person on the planet is different from each other. Just like snowflakes, unique and perfect. The trick in life is to experience and know how your own individual tool set, your physical body, your emotional feelings, and how your thoughts work, separately and together.
In the early years of development, we spend so much time training the young to get on as a group. Getting to know yourself should not require having others in the equation because it is futile. Yes, later in life perhaps, but not early on. Early on you need to become very well acquainted with you. Then later on you can relate yourself with others. But how can you relate to others when you have no familiarity with yourself, other than how you fall short in comparison to a false standard. The false standard being how you measure up to the "popularity" of the day. When I was twelve, several people said to me I should consider modeling because I was tall and slim and easy to look at. At seventeen, I got thinner and tried to do so. Do you know what the two top modeling agencies told me? "You don't have the right look." The right look at that time was one of two things: blonde and blue eyed with fine bones or exotic from the jungle. My look then was today's Ralph Lauren or an Abercombie Fitch, I was pretty but I didn't fit!
We don't know better or do we? I don't know if it's the media, TV, magazines or what, that has created such crazy notions of what is necessary for us to live, in confusion, not knowing we are confused.
So, back to love. What does all this have to do with what love feels like? Because how can we connect with others when we aren't fully connected to ourselves? We are like voids, unfull. How do you share with someone if you are empty? We have come to be such stimulation junkies, that it's like a love relationship is a form of entertainment. And then we are disappointed, because it's not what we thought. Love is not for our entertainment.( Although it is entertaining as times). Love is for our growth. Love gives you the opportunities
and challenges necessary to grow and rise to your fullest potential. And that is the real mission we are create
for. That stirs our longings for love. Love make us feel like becoming so much more than we already are.