You Are Love

You are love. But you don’t realize it. There is a divinity asleep in you. You have been programed so deeply by the sociocultural that you have almost completely lost your sense of who you are. Who you are at the core is connected to everything else. Here is your analytical metaphor: You are your own blog on the worldwide web. You are there, part of the whole big thing, but you have your very own distinct, individual characteristics, your own little show. The “All” is “Hollywood” and you are an episode. But the show needs the episodes to be the whole medium of entertainment. You see. So you don’t have to be competitive, or covetous, or jealous or envious because there is enough of everything in life to go around to everyone for every need. If you live on the ocean, full of fish, all that’s needed to eat each day is to fish. The Universe is very simple. And challenging! It never stops moving, nor should you. Things change, so you yourself have to continue to change your “dance steps with the music”. Sometimes you need to “learn” and use new moves, to stay evolved and progressive. This is what “getting old” is about, the inability of staying new, fresh, and flexible. Adaptability is the name of the game to happiness. Look at small children, they go long. We could never socially manipulate to the degree that we do if own our inherent nature wasn’t so pliable, so willing. Children’s nature is trusting and unfortunately as adults many of our conceptualizations of how life is have been corrupted. We believe a lie. And it takes great effort and much time to train our consciousness out of that lie. How do I know it is a lie? Because it doesn’t work for long, it doesn’t promote feeling great all the time, happiness, joy, etc. Suffering is not the enemy. It is an alarm, a security system to make you aware of something going in the wrong direction. You must use your consciousness to determine what that is FOR YOU and WHY? People spend a lot of time focusing on everyone outside themselves, then on their own issues, beliefs, and truths.

The Animator or Something Greater

Happiness is in the mind. I have travelled and observed people living with nothing that are blissed out and people with every luxury at their fingertips who are anxiety ridden and miserable. Why is this so?

It is in their mind. Their mind has cut them off from their Inherit Source. Inherent because it is IN, inside of you. You can’t lose it. It is always there. Although you may bury it in denial or cover it with your falsehoods. It is not your personality. Your personality is your own creation. You made it up. It is not Inherent. Your Inherent is inherited. It came with you, it is always there, you have no control of it. It however controls everything. It is the ISness of all that there is. It is the Animator. It is the Something Greater. It’s greatness is so far beyond our tiny brains. If you could chose to think about this in this way- that there is a Great Inherent Source that was, is and always will be capable of creating you and everything else that you know and don’t know of, an animating energy that is the source behind all appearances and all reality and Infinity. That Source must be perfect to do all it does. You and I are attributes of that Perfect Source whether you want to think it or not.

The human retina of the eye does 10,000 things in one second. The eyes don’t really see, they collect light and images and the brain interprets. The brain sees. The heart pumps, the lungs breathe. All this goes on and a zillion other things simultaneously even as we sleep. How so? What is in control of all of this? What determines when we are born, when we die? Who we meet? Who we love? Our families, our friends? All the paths we cross at the perfect times and the perfect places? Every day the sun rises and sets, the world spins on its axis. Who or what controls this? When the flowers bloom, the grass grows, the birds sing, when the spring, summer ,fall, winter arrive and depart, all the beauty, all the cycles, the stars, the moon, the oceans, all the feelings we feel. Huh? Do you control it!? No! But Something does! And that same Something is Inside of you. It is You. You are It. Like the acorn is the oak. And your mind separates this fact- that You are It, that You are that Amazing Power- from you. You ARE one of Its Attributes! But, YOUR MIND BY ITS OWN THINKING MAKES YOU BELIEVE THAT YOU ARE NOT!!! YOUR OWN THINKING MAKES YOU THINK THAT YOU ARE SEPARATE FROM WHAT YOU REALLY ARE!!!!!                                                                               

Mankind in 2012

Mankind in 2012 all over the world awakens from a long sleep. The dinosaurs of the old guard that will not shift and anyone else that has been wired to awaken but remains deep asleep by choice will have to disappear, as they refuse to participate in the totality of Love, the totality of Light and the totality of the Divine. Their light will extinguish and they will go elsewhere. The remainder will awaken to create a brand new civilization fully embodying its Divine Source. It is full of love, full of light. It is peaceful, inclusive, and in perfect cooperation. The days of competition will be finished, the days of illness will be over, as love will replace business and money. The shift will include the mass consciousness’s total healing to love and beauty in relation to all, one another. This in turn will create a consciousness, through proper right motivation, that will create the correct use of global resources for the good of all. The promotion of human well being will be the primary concern and work of all. Basic needs of all humans will be filled: clean food, water, air and energy, education and health care, shelter, clothing, protection of the environment, evolution to a high global consciousness. Excellent macrocosm through conscientious microcosm. World peace. Heaven on Earth. Whole individuals contributing to the whole mass.

Q: Why Would I Need A Yenta, A Matchmaker?

    Q. Why would I need a Yenta, a matchmaker?

  A. To help you. If you wanted to play the piano you could teach yourself or enlist an instructor. You would most likely learn more quickly with help.

  Q. What do I actually do? ( a Yenta for you)

  A. The reason you are not in the relationship you want is never about “other” people. It’s because of you. This doesn’t mean you are bad, wrong, or undeserving. It simply means that deep down inside of you, you are unclear about what you wish for. You don’t actually know. The universe is dying to give you what you want. It can’t because you block or stop the process with your lack of clarity. I’d like to add sometimes it’s compounded by a lack of commitment on your part as well. Not lack of commitment to the other person. It’s a lack of commitment to what you want. You need total clarity and commitment. In other words, you can be clear about what you want sometimes and then you second guess yourself why you want it and then decide it’s not “right”.  You go back and forth, yes and no, about what you want. In this way, you are not clear. This is what most people do. And why the things they want never show up. Think of it this way: successful people (those that fulfill their goals and desires) get their success because they are focused and are willing to do the things that are required. They will do whatever it takes. They don’t decide one thing, then cancel it, decide something else, cancel it and go back and forth, back and forth. You never make progress if your thoughts and feelings cancel each other out all the time, never going in the same steady direction. To get the relationship you desire, everything you need to do will require internal effort on your part. If you are willing to submit to an internal transformation, you can have anything you want in this life. Athletes do this. It’s hard if you are resistant and your desires are not strong and sincere. That’s why people are miserable. They choose the mediocre. It’s easier to just stick with the status quo and be the “victim” rather than break a habit and become dynamic.

  Q. What is the process of transformation?

  A. First of all, let me say that if you are willing you will succeed. If you are going to travel, to take a trip, you will need 2 things: the desire to go and the destination. It’s the same in relationships. You need to choose the place where you want to get to and use your human effort to get there. It’s easier to get where you’re going with a map or route and a little preparation. The trip will be smoother and faster. The inner transformation on your part is taking time and focus to look at yourself and your desires. It’s easier for most people to have a coach i.e. yenta to realistically see these things. We all need support. What I do simply is help you to identify and clear obstacles that may be holding you back. I aid you in demystifying the confusion in your desires. My services don’t appeal to everyone. They are simple and clear so they work for the sincere. Some people love their drama and don’t really want to give it up. It’s a huge distraction from looking at who they really are and what they are doing with that. The culture we live in doesn’t help. It actually creates much more anxiety and competition than the unity and love that we all seek.

So basically, the process is that we communicate,You and I. I ask questions to stir up ideas to help you get clear about what you want and who you are. Then we look at if your behavior is in alignment with your desires. Awareness begins. People create results and success faster and greater the more aware they become. It’s impossible to change what you are unconscious of.                    

Why me? What do I know? I have been surrounded by the masses my whole life. I grow up in a big family, long marriage, children, a career of service to the public in the beauty industry for 30 years in the most intimate way. I have been very close to people enhancing their personal appearance, physically in private their comfort zone, touching them and creating the image they project to the world through their appearance. And I tell you, that’s a big deal! They have shared information with me that no one else knows, like a therapist. That is part of the process. We all need to be listened to. When you communicate, your thoughts and ideas come alive. Clarity is born and a framework you create acts as a tool to empower you. Then it is easy. I’m just the support and the catalytic agent to start your process. You do it. I just help you “see” the way.                       

What Do I Want To Feel?

What do I want to feel?

In the way of love, what is it that we want to feel like? Usually in life the underlying motive of the things we want, is more related to the feeling that we want to enjoy and experience than the actual thing itself. Often it’s not the actual thing that we want but the experiential feeling we believe will come with the thing. With this thought in mind, what does the kind of love we seek feel like? What do we truly want to feel? This is where the confusion lies. We start thinking, and not about what it is we want to feel like. That’s the first big mistake. We start rationalizing, conceptualizing, intellectualizing ideas, etc. etc., not paying any attention to how we want to feel. At this point it’s better to slow down, get into a state of surrender, stop all the distractive modes and although it’s not easy at first, to “check in” on our feelings. It can create anxiousness. But look at that anxiousness and go beyond it. This is internal participation. You must be engaged. Part of the dilemma in life these days is this sense of spectatorship. We watch a movie, a funny romantic comedy like No Strings Attached. Good movie-deep statement about our culture. But we watch this movie and this is the extent, for many, to which we experience love, as an idea, which really isn’t an experience, it’s an entertainment, a spectatorship. We watch it without participation.                                         

So we get quiet and ready to hear the heart tell us what we are longing to feel. Listening to what it wants to let us “know”. We must quiet the brain for a moment so we can hear the heart speak. Get quiet and still. Then listen. Repeat” WHAT IS IT, I WANT TO FEEL WITH ANOTHER?” Not what do I want to get? No. “HOW DO I WANT TO FEEL?” “WHAT IS IT THAT FEELS GOOD FOR ME?”  We’re all different. So the answer varies. That is a great thing. Everything varies in Nature. It keeps things interesting. And how we want to feel, what brings satisfaction and fulfillment changes all the time. This is the nature of the unmanifest (Heaven/the Divine) and the manifest (what we create on Earth). Everything starts in the unmanifest, then it gets created or manifested through thoughts and feelings.  Something new can always be manifested again. So this is a beautiful thing because we have the power to create and then it can be changed, a new something is created to celebrate. This is the difference between celebration and entertainment. In celebration we participate. In entertainment we are spectators. So the cycles of life all follow this pattern of creation, sustainment, destruction, over and over, again and again. This is life. We can only exercise control over our reactions to the ebbs and flows of life and circumstances through our own awareness of how we are feeling and what we want to feel. We can change our feelings. We can consciously chose our feelings, we can direct our feelings better. We can consciously select what we want to feel and by actively putting our awareness and focus on it, we are participating (celebrating) in creating the kind of life we really want by knowing what it feels like. We need to start thinking about how we want our lives to feel like on a daily basis. With that said what feels better than love!!!?

Love and relationships

Love and relationship part 1 and 2

Part 1: Love yourself. You must come to know your true nature. The one you came to earth with at the start. Little by little the world has corrupted your beauty by making you conform to society and not be an individual. Society wants you obedient to its control. I’m not saying you need to be some kind of radical rebel. I’m saying know your own uniqueness and don’t imitate the fake. Be true. Be real. Everything else comes and goes. Problems occur in life because we go against what is natural within us. It causes a split and that’s why we suffer. Stay true to your heart, your nature and allow and accept others the same and love is easy.

Part 2: Don’t inflict your standards on others. This goes back to allowing and accepting. They are them and you are you and there are differences. I don’t know where our culture got its ideas that everyone should conform to one boring thing. Each person is individual and different and should live as they see fit for themselves. You dictate only for yourself and let them dictate only for themselves.

Thinking Serves Feelings

Thinking serves feelings.

Once thinking serves feelings, everything is balanced. The mind and the senses dance and create a world of their own. We limit ourselves through the mediocrity of living just the sense pleasures. We must create a way to use the mind to create a new reality, a new civilization that does some good. The mind doesn’t direct us. We direct our minds. With ego gratification and sense gratification living gets phonier and phonier. Look at Wall St. and American politics.

Real wealth is in the heart and spirit. It’s in own inherent creativity. We don’t have to prove anything to anybody, including ourselves. Believe in ourselves. Don’t believe in someone else, that’s secondary. Create our own consciousness. Don’t borrow or imitate the mass consciousness. Imagination is better than intellect. All the advances in the human progression were due to creativity. Meditation is creativity. We need not become anything, just yield to that power within us. Surrender to that that is beyond us. Then our egos disappear, our wounds heal, we become whole and start flowing with existence.

Make a commitment to not be phony. Commit to the process of a higher consciousness. The mind has the ability to manifest anything it wants. Do not choose to live a powerless life. We have to take responsibility.

A New Generation in A Brave New World

A New Generation in A Brave New World

What’s going on in our world? I’ll tell you. 14,000 years ago humanity followed a matriarchal society. The Divine Feminine ruled for 7,000 years. At that point a patriarchal energy came in to rule for the next 7,000 years. That patriarchal energy just finished its reign in 1999. So now what? What’s going on?

We have begun a new paradigm. Not matriarch, not patriarch, but both together as a couple, as equals, as co-creators. Humanity’s ruling energies will be of a feminine/masculine co equal interdependent balanced ruler. That is where this new generation of humans (born 1975 and later) are taking us.

They are a unique breed. They are perfect in their own way. And everything in the last 75 years on earth is the review, cleanup and ascension of the old to make way for the new- the new breed of human consciousness. A much more evolved human consciousness. One that is moving closer to its own Divinity without getting lost in the process and destroying itself.

A new breed that will use its unique and individual wisdoms to create a collective whole that is balanced and interdependent and that will transcend pain and suffering out of the human equation. They will create Heaven on Earth and elevate this beautiful planet to be part of a more balanced universe.

This new breed, which will be here for a least the next thousand years, needs to be more fully and clearly understood by those of the old breed and those who have come to “clear” the way for them.

Each one of them has a “genius” of some kind within them. And the whole point is to discover what that genius is and bring it about to create something new in the world. They have a different mentality (Thank God!). They learn differently and they can’t be herded like sheep. Education is going to have to change tremendously in regard to them. They are naturally intuitive, so memorizing a bunch of antiquated ideology doesn’t work for them. Their needs must be met and with great love and compassion for the fact that they are so very different from what’s come before them. Each one has a genius that they need to find. And when they do, when they find their genius, it is half of the equation for their happiness and total fulfillment in this life here on Earth. All that genius, from each of them, will create a new consciousness and way of existence for humankind here in our planet, Mother Earth. The other half of the fulfillment equation is that each of them is encoded to just one mate. That’s right just one mate- their one true love. So when they find their one mate and their genius they are golden. That’s not to say that they won’t have many experiences with others who are not their one mate while on the road to finding their true love. But once they find their “divine contract to mate” they will “know” because it will fit undeniably. The energy flow will be there. It will move along easily. It will feel beautiful and be supportive. They will be compatible. And when they meet, match and mate they become the living embodiment, here on earth, of the new energetic archetype, the feminine/masculine co equal interdependent God. “As Above, So Below.” 

The Quick Way TO Freedom

The Quick Way To Freedom

First separate the real from the false. The false will get you nowhere. Even if you don’t know what is real, you do know what is false. So don’t sign on to that bill of goods. The list of things that SHOULD bring bliss: money, beauty, power, status, education, position, opportunity…The best things, the real things are unquestionably simple. They are a simple yes or no, because you know for sure there is never a maybe and you don’t ever have to convince yourself or make excuses. If you find yourself making excuses for someone or something then you know its fake, it’s false, at least for you. So get real about yourself and what you really want. We think we want all this stuff, but really we want attention. Usually attention will do it. Then a little kind spiritedness goes a long way.

Find Yourself Than Find Your Truths

Find yourself than find your truths.

Everyone has a failed love somewhere early in life. They just weren’t understood and loved unconditionally when the seeds were sown.  Parents of children are so invested in their own dramas and survival during those formative years that it’s near impossible to do. Many have been branded somewhere in time by a love situation that didn’t go right and its victim can suffer unconsciously for years. For men it can start with their mother (maybe a dynamic between the mother and father) and for women, their father. We long for the validation and recognition of our own wonder. We are a wonder, one of a kind. One of the most significant influences of love for me was my father’s mother. This grandmother had such love, acceptance, allowance, and understanding of who I was that I will never forget how she made me feel. She always said yes, not in an ego creating way. She would let me be and do what brought me happiness. So long as I didn’t get hurt she let me be. She had an amazing ability of creating delight and a sense of belonging in a child. I felt I was her favorite and so did each and every one of her 35 grandchildren. That power of unconditional love.

To get clear of the early love malfunction you need to identify it and address it. Embrace it and forgive the ignorance, neglect, whatever was the source of its creation. Realize that whatever it was that you needed and didn’t get emotionally, will continue to be a pattern in every new relationship. You will search for that validation in relationship after relationship. You will continue to play it out unconsciously until you make it conscious.  Once you are aware of your unconscious pattern you can learn to give yourself whatever you didn’t get but wanted, and let go of trying to find it in others. It’s like a wound that needs to be cleaned and looked at so it can heal properly. Whatever makes us suffer just needs more light and more love. So find the weed and pull it out at the root and toss it in the rubbish. Whatever you needed back then is possible to give yourself right now. It always comes around to love. Love is food. You go hungry without it. You get cranky without it. It gets more painful without it the longer you go. Babies die without it. It makes us old before our time if it stops.

Why are people unhappy?

Why are people unhappy?

Its because their energy has taken a wrong turn. And with passage of time the wrong turn becomes an unconscious habit.

We all start happy and loving. It’s our Divine nature when we are born. Then a cycle starts where our surrounding providers (the people we love), project their ideas for molding and constructing identities that we should become. It’s pretty inescapable because it begins when we are little and helpless. We are cared for by people who, if they were on a time line, are probably at the deepest point of their own enslavement in a societally conditioned false personality. Unless are really blessed to be raised by people who allow you to follow your own nature, you are doomed to become split inside by the pressures of the human environment around you. Like begets like, usually. It takes great effort and courage to break a cycle and move and behave opposite of what you have been forced to experience. That is, if you are not completely broken first, in the process.

Life is an evolution. That is what I believe. I also believe that the human spirit reincarnates many times to refine it’s consciousness. I believe souls evolve. I believe, that right now, the group that is maturing has been groomed to be competitive, but are choosing to be collaborative and cooperative instead. The days of the war monger mentality are over, at least in the U.S.A. I believe that the United States is the model of democracy- a spiritual democracy that is for the globe. It’s far from perfect but we are moving in a positive direction to become a global whole. The paradigm being unified individuals operating from an awareness of themselves as an individual but also awareness of themselves as a part of the collective whole, the group, the human family.

We are evolving to oneness, an individual first that creates in the collective whole. This young group will smash the old ways of control. They will innovate new models of consciousness. They are realizing it’s not enough to be well fed, well clothed, well housed, well educated, with all the bells and whistles, if you are not well loved within yourself, from yourself and radiating benevolently that overflowing excess of love to those others like you.

Love is the most important component to sustenance in the human schematic. Atrocities occur on each other and our planet because of lack of it. And we’ve lost it simply because of a wrong turn that can easily be set right. Set it right and practice that new setup and create a new habit, by creating a new awareness, a new consciousness. This is what we are striving towards: embodying our true Divine nature within the one human family on our planet Mother Earth.

We are born to illicit love. Period. That’s the whole concept in a nutshell at present. All the great masters, messiahs, holy teachers, whatever you want to call them have all said the same thing: Love Yourself and Love One Another. Mankind has a long history of this Divine Manifest being contorted and twisted by manipulative and greedy men to gain control and power over the meek and gentle hearted who try to practice love. This has got to stop and the present youthful generation will do so reconnecting to the Divine through consciously guiding their thoughts and emotions into acts of love. They will transform themselves through the conscious and constant practice of thinking correctly and converting their emotional energy to illicit love and loving relationships. They will think right thoughts, positive thoughts, not garbage, not ego based. They will imote love in their feelings and in their words. They will direct whatever emotional energy that fills them back into what comes most naturally, that which is love. It is natural. The most natural thing is to radiate love. The reason mankind is so screwed up is because it has lost its essential connection to its true nature through the practice of and enslavement to the ego based concepts of the mass consciousness. All that needs to be done is to lift the veil of unconsciousness, to see the stupidity of our own ancient rules and outdated standards that no longer serve us or our Mother Earth.

We have to practice love. Everyday. Every minute. As light dispels darkness, love dispels unhappiness.

Getting Busy

Ok. Ready to begin. Cleared your head. Opened your heart. Know what you want. Your willingnes is good to go. In Divine Contract, two people meet and mate. There is an energy process, a flow that stimulates emotion, human emotion, between these two people. As you connect, as the energy flows, emotions come along and those emotions manifest the quality, the quantity of the relationship between the two of you. Many times there are other emotions this energy can get translated into, something besides love. All the energy influences from your spirit, through your soul, are those of Divine
emotion: love, awe, divinity, joy, wisdom, acceptance. The discrepancy between those emotions and what you actually feel is a translation between your soul and your physical body. Sometimes the energy goes astray. Sometimes the energy is too much, and it is translated as irritation, as annoyance. There is also a functioning of choice, although these choices are below the level of your consciousness. In the process, you learn all the aspects of human emotion.You feel an experience. All aspects of human emotion within this experience, which seems to be fully reactive, but which is not, you have choice. Although it seems your emotions are in response to energy, that energy is always designed to elicit a response of love. The emotion that comes instead of love is a function of your choice although it may not be conscious. If you can begin to make this process more conscious, if you can begin to look at each relationship in your life and make full conscious choices about them, about acceptance, about friendship, about allowing, about choosing to not be annoyed or irritated or frightened or threatened or competitive or any other emotion and instead focus on love, this will shift your consciousness, your experience in life. It will shift your abundance. It will open your creativity. And it will take you to the next level. To love someone is not to make a commitment to them. Rather it is making a commitment to yourself and fulfilling your commitment with the Divine.