You Are Love

You are love. But you don’t realize it. There is a divinity asleep in you. You have been programed so deeply by the sociocultural that you have almost completely lost your sense of who you are. Who you are at the core is connected to everything else. Here is your analytical metaphor: You are your own blog on the worldwide web. You are there, part of the whole big thing, but you have your very own distinct, individual characteristics, your own little show. The “All” is “Hollywood” and you are an episode. But the show needs the episodes to be the whole medium of entertainment. You see. So you don’t have to be competitive, or covetous, or jealous or envious because there is enough of everything in life to go around to everyone for every need. If you live on the ocean, full of fish, all that’s needed to eat each day is to fish. The Universe is very simple. And challenging! It never stops moving, nor should you. Things change, so you yourself have to continue to change your “dance steps with the music”. Sometimes you need to “learn” and use new moves, to stay evolved and progressive. This is what “getting old” is about, the inability of staying new, fresh, and flexible. Adaptability is the name of the game to happiness. Look at small children, they go long. We could never socially manipulate to the degree that we do if own our inherent nature wasn’t so pliable, so willing. Children’s nature is trusting and unfortunately as adults many of our conceptualizations of how life is have been corrupted. We believe a lie. And it takes great effort and much time to train our consciousness out of that lie. How do I know it is a lie? Because it doesn’t work for long, it doesn’t promote feeling great all the time, happiness, joy, etc. Suffering is not the enemy. It is an alarm, a security system to make you aware of something going in the wrong direction. You must use your consciousness to determine what that is FOR YOU and WHY? People spend a lot of time focusing on everyone outside themselves, then on their own issues, beliefs, and truths.

The Animator or Something Greater

Happiness is in the mind. I have travelled and observed people living with nothing that are blissed out and people with every luxury at their fingertips who are anxiety ridden and miserable. Why is this so?

It is in their mind. Their mind has cut them off from their Inherit Source. Inherent because it is IN, inside of you. You can’t lose it. It is always there. Although you may bury it in denial or cover it with your falsehoods. It is not your personality. Your personality is your own creation. You made it up. It is not Inherent. Your Inherent is inherited. It came with you, it is always there, you have no control of it. It however controls everything. It is the ISness of all that there is. It is the Animator. It is the Something Greater. It’s greatness is so far beyond our tiny brains. If you could chose to think about this in this way- that there is a Great Inherent Source that was, is and always will be capable of creating you and everything else that you know and don’t know of, an animating energy that is the source behind all appearances and all reality and Infinity. That Source must be perfect to do all it does. You and I are attributes of that Perfect Source whether you want to think it or not.

The human retina of the eye does 10,000 things in one second. The eyes don’t really see, they collect light and images and the brain interprets. The brain sees. The heart pumps, the lungs breathe. All this goes on and a zillion other things simultaneously even as we sleep. How so? What is in control of all of this? What determines when we are born, when we die? Who we meet? Who we love? Our families, our friends? All the paths we cross at the perfect times and the perfect places? Every day the sun rises and sets, the world spins on its axis. Who or what controls this? When the flowers bloom, the grass grows, the birds sing, when the spring, summer ,fall, winter arrive and depart, all the beauty, all the cycles, the stars, the moon, the oceans, all the feelings we feel. Huh? Do you control it!? No! But Something does! And that same Something is Inside of you. It is You. You are It. Like the acorn is the oak. And your mind separates this fact- that You are It, that You are that Amazing Power- from you. You ARE one of Its Attributes! But, YOUR MIND BY ITS OWN THINKING MAKES YOU BELIEVE THAT YOU ARE NOT!!! YOUR OWN THINKING MAKES YOU THINK THAT YOU ARE SEPARATE FROM WHAT YOU REALLY ARE!!!!!                                                                               

Mankind in 2012

Mankind in 2012 all over the world awakens from a long sleep. The dinosaurs of the old guard that will not shift and anyone else that has been wired to awaken but remains deep asleep by choice will have to disappear, as they refuse to participate in the totality of Love, the totality of Light and the totality of the Divine. Their light will extinguish and they will go elsewhere. The remainder will awaken to create a brand new civilization fully embodying its Divine Source. It is full of love, full of light. It is peaceful, inclusive, and in perfect cooperation. The days of competition will be finished, the days of illness will be over, as love will replace business and money. The shift will include the mass consciousness’s total healing to love and beauty in relation to all, one another. This in turn will create a consciousness, through proper right motivation, that will create the correct use of global resources for the good of all. The promotion of human well being will be the primary concern and work of all. Basic needs of all humans will be filled: clean food, water, air and energy, education and health care, shelter, clothing, protection of the environment, evolution to a high global consciousness. Excellent macrocosm through conscientious microcosm. World peace. Heaven on Earth. Whole individuals contributing to the whole mass.

Q: Why Would I Need A Yenta, A Matchmaker?

    Q. Why would I need a Yenta, a matchmaker?

  A. To help you. If you wanted to play the piano you could teach yourself or enlist an instructor. You would most likely learn more quickly with help.

  Q. What do I actually do? ( a Yenta for you)

  A. The reason you are not in the relationship you want is never about “other” people. It’s because of you. This doesn’t mean you are bad, wrong, or undeserving. It simply means that deep down inside of you, you are unclear about what you wish for. You don’t actually know. The universe is dying to give you what you want. It can’t because you block or stop the process with your lack of clarity. I’d like to add sometimes it’s compounded by a lack of commitment on your part as well. Not lack of commitment to the other person. It’s a lack of commitment to what you want. You need total clarity and commitment. In other words, you can be clear about what you want sometimes and then you second guess yourself why you want it and then decide it’s not “right”.  You go back and forth, yes and no, about what you want. In this way, you are not clear. This is what most people do. And why the things they want never show up. Think of it this way: successful people (those that fulfill their goals and desires) get their success because they are focused and are willing to do the things that are required. They will do whatever it takes. They don’t decide one thing, then cancel it, decide something else, cancel it and go back and forth, back and forth. You never make progress if your thoughts and feelings cancel each other out all the time, never going in the same steady direction. To get the relationship you desire, everything you need to do will require internal effort on your part. If you are willing to submit to an internal transformation, you can have anything you want in this life. Athletes do this. It’s hard if you are resistant and your desires are not strong and sincere. That’s why people are miserable. They choose the mediocre. It’s easier to just stick with the status quo and be the “victim” rather than break a habit and become dynamic.

  Q. What is the process of transformation?

  A. First of all, let me say that if you are willing you will succeed. If you are going to travel, to take a trip, you will need 2 things: the desire to go and the destination. It’s the same in relationships. You need to choose the place where you want to get to and use your human effort to get there. It’s easier to get where you’re going with a map or route and a little preparation. The trip will be smoother and faster. The inner transformation on your part is taking time and focus to look at yourself and your desires. It’s easier for most people to have a coach i.e. yenta to realistically see these things. We all need support. What I do simply is help you to identify and clear obstacles that may be holding you back. I aid you in demystifying the confusion in your desires. My services don’t appeal to everyone. They are simple and clear so they work for the sincere. Some people love their drama and don’t really want to give it up. It’s a huge distraction from looking at who they really are and what they are doing with that. The culture we live in doesn’t help. It actually creates much more anxiety and competition than the unity and love that we all seek.

So basically, the process is that we communicate,You and I. I ask questions to stir up ideas to help you get clear about what you want and who you are. Then we look at if your behavior is in alignment with your desires. Awareness begins. People create results and success faster and greater the more aware they become. It’s impossible to change what you are unconscious of.                    

Why me? What do I know? I have been surrounded by the masses my whole life. I grow up in a big family, long marriage, children, a career of service to the public in the beauty industry for 30 years in the most intimate way. I have been very close to people enhancing their personal appearance, physically in private their comfort zone, touching them and creating the image they project to the world through their appearance. And I tell you, that’s a big deal! They have shared information with me that no one else knows, like a therapist. That is part of the process. We all need to be listened to. When you communicate, your thoughts and ideas come alive. Clarity is born and a framework you create acts as a tool to empower you. Then it is easy. I’m just the support and the catalytic agent to start your process. You do it. I just help you “see” the way.                       

What Do I Want To Feel?

What do I want to feel?

In the way of love, what is it that we want to feel like? Usually in life the underlying motive of the things we want, is more related to the feeling that we want to enjoy and experience than the actual thing itself. Often it’s not the actual thing that we want but the experiential feeling we believe will come with the thing. With this thought in mind, what does the kind of love we seek feel like? What do we truly want to feel? This is where the confusion lies. We start thinking, and not about what it is we want to feel like. That’s the first big mistake. We start rationalizing, conceptualizing, intellectualizing ideas, etc. etc., not paying any attention to how we want to feel. At this point it’s better to slow down, get into a state of surrender, stop all the distractive modes and although it’s not easy at first, to “check in” on our feelings. It can create anxiousness. But look at that anxiousness and go beyond it. This is internal participation. You must be engaged. Part of the dilemma in life these days is this sense of spectatorship. We watch a movie, a funny romantic comedy like No Strings Attached. Good movie-deep statement about our culture. But we watch this movie and this is the extent, for many, to which we experience love, as an idea, which really isn’t an experience, it’s an entertainment, a spectatorship. We watch it without participation.                                         

So we get quiet and ready to hear the heart tell us what we are longing to feel. Listening to what it wants to let us “know”. We must quiet the brain for a moment so we can hear the heart speak. Get quiet and still. Then listen. Repeat” WHAT IS IT, I WANT TO FEEL WITH ANOTHER?” Not what do I want to get? No. “HOW DO I WANT TO FEEL?” “WHAT IS IT THAT FEELS GOOD FOR ME?”  We’re all different. So the answer varies. That is a great thing. Everything varies in Nature. It keeps things interesting. And how we want to feel, what brings satisfaction and fulfillment changes all the time. This is the nature of the unmanifest (Heaven/the Divine) and the manifest (what we create on Earth). Everything starts in the unmanifest, then it gets created or manifested through thoughts and feelings.  Something new can always be manifested again. So this is a beautiful thing because we have the power to create and then it can be changed, a new something is created to celebrate. This is the difference between celebration and entertainment. In celebration we participate. In entertainment we are spectators. So the cycles of life all follow this pattern of creation, sustainment, destruction, over and over, again and again. This is life. We can only exercise control over our reactions to the ebbs and flows of life and circumstances through our own awareness of how we are feeling and what we want to feel. We can change our feelings. We can consciously chose our feelings, we can direct our feelings better. We can consciously select what we want to feel and by actively putting our awareness and focus on it, we are participating (celebrating) in creating the kind of life we really want by knowing what it feels like. We need to start thinking about how we want our lives to feel like on a daily basis. With that said what feels better than love!!!?

Love and relationships

Love and relationship part 1 and 2

Part 1: Love yourself. You must come to know your true nature. The one you came to earth with at the start. Little by little the world has corrupted your beauty by making you conform to society and not be an individual. Society wants you obedient to its control. I’m not saying you need to be some kind of radical rebel. I’m saying know your own uniqueness and don’t imitate the fake. Be true. Be real. Everything else comes and goes. Problems occur in life because we go against what is natural within us. It causes a split and that’s why we suffer. Stay true to your heart, your nature and allow and accept others the same and love is easy.

Part 2: Don’t inflict your standards on others. This goes back to allowing and accepting. They are them and you are you and there are differences. I don’t know where our culture got its ideas that everyone should conform to one boring thing. Each person is individual and different and should live as they see fit for themselves. You dictate only for yourself and let them dictate only for themselves.

Thinking Serves Feelings

Thinking serves feelings.

Once thinking serves feelings, everything is balanced. The mind and the senses dance and create a world of their own. We limit ourselves through the mediocrity of living just the sense pleasures. We must create a way to use the mind to create a new reality, a new civilization that does some good. The mind doesn’t direct us. We direct our minds. With ego gratification and sense gratification living gets phonier and phonier. Look at Wall St. and American politics.

Real wealth is in the heart and spirit. It’s in own inherent creativity. We don’t have to prove anything to anybody, including ourselves. Believe in ourselves. Don’t believe in someone else, that’s secondary. Create our own consciousness. Don’t borrow or imitate the mass consciousness. Imagination is better than intellect. All the advances in the human progression were due to creativity. Meditation is creativity. We need not become anything, just yield to that power within us. Surrender to that that is beyond us. Then our egos disappear, our wounds heal, we become whole and start flowing with existence.

Make a commitment to not be phony. Commit to the process of a higher consciousness. The mind has the ability to manifest anything it wants. Do not choose to live a powerless life. We have to take responsibility.